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  • I am grateful for these posts started by Aniroodh Sivaraman then continued by Rishabha  and I always agree with Suryananda’s advice and insights as he always adds a wealth of knowledge.

    These are my thoughts around us on this site as Yogis that subscribe to InSelf Yoga philosophy.

    We all can agree that sex is “natural” pervasive and essential in Nature’s system and it’s inevitable that we will be used to participate in its process throughout our many lives.

    Over the last 30-40 years, humankind has considered “Natural sex” interaction as two humans having sex with one another physically.  Generally, once males and females hit our puberty stage (approx. 12 years of age) our sexual interests in one another begin developing.

    Now it has recently come to my attention thanks to these posts by our members that are currently using younger bodies (under 40)

    Suryananda, please do not include yourself in the age group…LOL!

    That this concept has fundamentally shifted in how people interact sexually. Youth are engaged in viewing sexual acts on video prior to actually having sex physically as young as 7 years old.

    Whoa! I could even not imagine that in my time.

    As InSelf Yogis, we know that simultaneously we are experiencing this psychically during both acts but even a step further.

    We also know that our aim is to liberate ourselves from this vicious cycle. So whether we view it as “natural” is irrelevant towards our aim.

    But we should be able to see that this porngraphy is a problem for us spanning a couple generations due to the increase in media technology phenomenon.

    As InSelf Yogis, our Point of View (POV) matters! 

    By us viewing this from the technology’s POV, we are damaging our psychic perception. 

    Does it affect our POV that we do not see the director telling the actors what to do or how to perform the scene for the camera?

    Are there make-up artists on set, hiding or covering up physical flaws?

    Are the actors taking any types of drugs to enhance their performance and stamina (i.e. erection, multiple orgasms)?

    How many times has the video been edited or re-shot?

    In our practice, we are continually examining from which location and what clarifying mode are we viewing an experience.

    So should we not be careful with conflating particular behaviors as “natural” when indeed they may not.

    What do I mean???  Let’s think about it….

    Now we have to investigate this… since everything has a positive and a negative side.

    We have to evaluate if this is this better or is it worse for us as human beings?

    Is having sex physically with another human being the same as viewing two other human beings having sexual intercourse for ungodly length of time??

    How does it affect my POV of the sexual acts and those involved?  Are we viewing this logically or illogically?

    How does this affect my Prathyar practice? Does it improve or degrade it?

    Lastly, can I back track to understand how I arrived at this place so I can ultimately drop this destructive habit?

    Please know that I am not writing this from my high perch looking down on those of us who struggling with this addiction.

    During my generation (Generation X – born 1965-1979)  Watching others having sex on film or magazines was damn near impossible. I remember in my teen years, an uncle visiting us from England and finding his “Playboy” magazines on the floor in my closet. I remember being so shocked to see the cover with a naked woman on it and even more terrified to think about touching it.  

    By time I was in my late teens, there was an occasion where a buddy had a VHS tape of porngraphy and invite some guys over to watch while his parents were out of town. So the opportunities for viewing porn on a regular basis was not readily available.  

    However, in my late twenties into thirties where it was more available for viewing. I admittedly became addicted and struggled with it for years which altered my POV of the women that I was sexually involved with during that time. For about a decade or so of this life, I was unable to sit a my computer without visiting and browsing a porn website.

    Now it’s been more than 7 plus years since I have dropped this habit and I credited it to the breath infusion practice InSelf philosophy and reading “Masturbation Psychic Details” and “Sex You” to pull myself out of that massive hole.

    Lastly, I appreciate the bravery of these younger members of this forum with sharing their experiences and beginning to tackle this issue….

    I have no doubt this is like the Marvel movies…..“To Be Continued!”