Shares of Sexual Enjoyment

Recently during the month of October of 2016, on the astral side of existence, I was asked by one person about the predicament of someone who practices the eight-staged yoga system defined by Patanjali but who as fate would have it, has a spouse who requires excessive sexual indulgence.

Over the years, this question arose again and again, where an ascetic is perplexed as to what to do about this. Some ascetics wish to separate from a partner who is over-indulgent. Some wish to leave a partner who is under-indulgent.

Before answering, we must first define what over-indulgence is. If we take definitions from scriptures and from certain yoga texts, then we are supplanting information from ancient cultures into the modern situation. That is a mismatch. It does not matter if the ancient cultures were superior situations. What is important is that what worked then may not work at this time, because the mediums of sensual expression were changed in the process of time.

We must also define the situation of each partner to know the cultural background and relative strengths in relation to any type of sensual indulgence. Let us split off from sexuality and deal with the broader issue of sensuality. Some persons are more sensually resistant than others, overall. How many people can walk into an ice-cream parlor and walk out with satisfaction having eaten not one flavor?

That has to do with the sense of taste. Just the anticipation which comes to mind in hearing the word ice-cream is enough to send some people into a state of high excitation. Thus what it the resistance of each partner?

But again that ugly question which confronts a yogi from time to time, more often than not, is:

Who owns the body?

How do we know who is to tell the body what it should do?

Which living or dead relative of which of the partners owns the body of either partner or can compel the body to do what activity, sexual or otherwise?

In so far as the body is a joint enterprise, how much of it is owned by the primary operator (core-self) of the body?

Does the ascetic have all rights to the entire body, as to what it should do here or there, at all times and in all places?

I have two missing front teeth, with two badly worn chipped front teeth still in place. Because of the whimsical action of a relative, this was caused in the childhood years.

What should I do about it?

Should I find that relative and extract a return for the missing teeth?

How do I know if that relative had right into the use of the body to ruin the teeth?

Recently I was with a descendant of my body. I notice how nicely formed that person’s front teeth were in contrast to my own. Should I tax that person because I am the cause of that person having such teeth because I took precautions with that descendant which my ancestors did not take with me?

An ascetic should be sure to protect his or her portion of the body which he or she owns. But the ascetic should not think that he or she can control the entire body. One should recognize the portion of the body which is owned by others and not fuss over their use of it. Let others settle with nature their percentage use of the body. Don’t lose sleep over it. When all is said and done, one is only accountable for the portion of the body which one owns. How much is that?

This is the million dollar question!

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Some ascetics get into the mind-set that because the body is in an enjoying mood or situation, sexual or otherwise, he or she should be enjoying the body.

Really?

How much of the funds collected by a bank teller on a daily basis should be spent by the teller?

Which pieces of mail which have financial contents, should be kept by the postman instead being delivered?

How do you know if the body should be enjoyed by some other person?

In some situations we hear that others force a body to work for low wages or for nothing. What is the cause of these abusers having such rights over the body?

I recall seeing horses pulling loaded dray-carts loaded with molasses which the horses dearly love but which they could taste not even a drop of it.

Is it true that because one partner is overindulgent the other must also be enjoying to the same degree. This applies to all forms of sensuality not just sexual pleasure.

Should a waiter who serves a meal, sit down and enjoy it just the same as the restaurant customer?