Loneliness during Death

Loneliness during Death

Recently in observing a one-year old child, I noticed how desperate the infant was for the association of its mother. If the mother departed, the child would cry in desperation, which soon turned into hot anger and exasperation. If you want to be one with something or someone and you are not allowed, then it is likely that your mind will respond with frustration, dissatisfaction and rage.

What did I surmise from the experience with this infant?

I began to trace the attitude to the desperation the infant felt when it used its last material body, when in the elderly years, infirmity and other health inconveniences manifested and the reality of not being permanently positioned in the social makeup of the world finally dawned.

The carefully and consistently crafted social identity, the slot one filled while living, is threatened by time and death. In the elderly years many find themselves to be isolated, rejected, regarded as extra baggage for the younger members of the family to care for, and seen as medical expenses.

Some younger members of the family, just outright refuse to render assistance to the elderly one, while some others willing do it for one reason or the other; some are motivated for inheritance benefits while some do it nonchalantly and others affectionately.

This all adds up to marginalization. One of the social conditions which shocked Gautama Buddha into renouncing his opulent lifestyle was the condition of an aged person (body). Buddha was afraid of continuing in a system which rendered such trauma to a living being.

This infant, I divined, was marginalized in its past body in the elderly years of it, and got real lonely. Hence it passed on as an isolated nobody who was slowly but surely pushed away from its social identity and the benefits of that social life which it enjoyed when its body was in the height of youth and was in maturity and the early senior years. But then the tides went out, and the hull of the social status was beached and could not float and maneuver itself in various relations any longer.

This situation is so shocking that even people who claim to love their relatives, even those who were very affectionate, may become nasty and vicious when they find themselves to be marginalized. Many of the elderly develop various stages of dementia so that they forget whom they served and thus make no claims about who owes them what service for having rendered to those relatives services as a parent or guardian early one.

To maintain value in the family during the elderly years, one needs money and knowledge but knowledge is become more and more useless because of modern technology and the access to education from non-parental sources. At least two hundred years ago even in the location of the developed countries today, some old man or old woman, even on the death bed might be consulted for advice based on knowledge which the younger members of the family did not have but today with knowledge stored in books and online (in the Intel cloud), young people do not need the limited, biased, out-dated knowledge which is in the brains of elderly members of the family.

The only asset one may have then as an elderly member of the family is one’s money, such that some elderly persons complain about not having a well-paying job or not being able to work or having lost the 401K or other financial tricks.

In this way elderly people are terrorized by the modern culture after they are shown by it that their existence here is expensive, non-productive and unnecessary.

After departing from the body, at its death in the elderly years with that frightened look on the face for being rejected and sectioned off in a home for the elderly, the spirit must face the same energy in a purely psychic way hereafter and then when it again gets an embryo by the grace of psychic nature (or God), it comes out from the mother’s passage in a huff and puff trying to grasp the much needed air which at that time is the only thing that will assure survival.

It then clings to the mother in the hope that she will not regard it as unwanted baggage, a parasite as it is. It carries this instinct for association and social value from the past life and will cry and scream in the most awful way if this need for not being isolated, is not met.

Would I be such an infant again?