Actually, these experiences and attitudes are common and to some degree natural. We can notice that at the age of maturity/puberty even billy goats and others engage in some form of sensuality/sexuality and even perverted behaviors at time. It isn’t exclusive to humans.

The desire re-manifesting in typically young males due to loads of newly discovered/acquired testosterone is the drive. But humans use sophisticated means that exacerbate the situation. Now with access to porn on digital devices, since the crib, recent generations have immediate access to tons of pornography of all manners! By the time they are through middle to high school most have viewed more porn of their liking than their predecessors would have in the course of their entire lives! This in my experience in US public school also involves girls, for sure.

And, humans can deviate into the unnatural nilly willy so long as it is source of pleasure (unlike animals). As a counselor/life coach I come across (so far) males clients who indeed are unable to have a normal intimate relationship with their partners (no matter how hard they want and try), because within their psyche the object of desire is no longer a natural woman, but one on a glossy high caliber pixelated screen that provides instant gratification without any complications of the feel of a real person/relationship. That is how their pleasure sense and levels of endorphins are satisfied, a switch took place.

Whether all specialists agree or not that sex addiction is a genuine condition or a simple unabated indulgence to instant gratification, the trend is only getting deeper and wider. Sex sells exceptionally well, the exploitation is multifaceted. Due to increasing dependence on technology, the situation is more part of ordinary lives. It is actually weird and extraordinary to not have been consumed in titillating sex at some point.

So it is important for parents to develop the understanding of authentic communications with their children, a tall order for most. In recent distant times, marriages took place at around puberty, the drive was naturally and responsibly channel in contributing to raising a family and controlling to society.

Due to my approach (as an educator and counselor), I maintained an open communication with my son when he became a teen a couple of years ago. By understanding the pitfalls to watch out for, he knows not to overindulge given his awareness of future possible complications to his own life.

I don’t necessarily believe his claim of not partaking (anymore), and I am not wanting him to impress me, but allow him to be honest. Still his behavior might change when in college years, it may become perceived as not a big deal. Folks can go through different phases of on and off with the obsession anyways, but knowledge and understanding can help mitigate things as time progresses.

I know there is some sincerity when he expresses for instance as a young teen feeling harassed by his sex drive, a dichotomy of him versus the natural force. That perspective alone, to me demonstrate that he is not taking it for granted, unlike perhaps most young and full of cum. He knows and is aware of the energy expenditures of the indulgence.

Scaring them straight and preaching IMO may not be productive, and can make the vices more secretive and deviant, as they will resist opening up about the issue in conjugal settings. But how can parents be liable for not giving something they don’t have in terms of understanding, knowledge, awareness, time and attention.