The Marriage Trap
Meditationtime Forum Post
Date: Posted 6 years before Sep 01, 2018
MiBeloved 6 years ago
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In the Indian tradition, males are usually required to get married before the age of 25 thereabouts. Mostly the elders of the family want to control the marriage selections. There was a lot of pressure on me to get married from the age of 21, but I resisted.
My relatives are materialistic and they wanted to trap me into marriage, so that they could use me in all possible ways. I had to fight a long battle to come out of all this.
MiBeloved’s Response:
Elders in the family have every right to trap the youngsters into marriage because marriage or at least commitment to care for progeny is the only method by which the family can extend itself into the future.
If a family does not beget children, then that family would go extinct, just as many people express concern over the extinction of animals. Once an animal species is gone, it is gone forever, really. Have you seen any dinosaurs running around recently? Have you seen a woolly mammoth elephant? Have you seen a saber tooth tiger?
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Have you seen any of the Neanderthal sub-human species?
Since I used my elders when they took care of me as an infant, it goes to be reasonable to expect that they will eventually want some compensation.
Of course good people in this world are supposed to do things selflessly.
O yeah!
Well when you need the next body, many of those selfless acts might have to be cashed in when you are about to bargain with your would-be parents who are your descendants and who do not want the responsibility for children.
So my next mother, who will be my present grand-daughter might want to avoid pregnancies altogether. Suppose she wants to keep her body fit for the life of a Hollywood celebrity? Or suppose she wants to be successful as a CEO of a business enterprise?
What should I do? Wait until she is 45 years of age when her career has seasoned or when her movie-star face begins to wrinkle, before she decides not to take any birth control pills?
So what is reasonable? You tell me.
A human body is not free. As soon as one gets one, one becomes obligated and actually one is taking a loan in the form of the services which are performed by the parents or guardians, by medical people, educators etc, in raising that initially helpless body.
So if one of the ancestors, who supported that body in infancy, passes away, what right does that person have to demand a new body from me? Why should I be burdened carrying the responsibility for that person’s infancy?
So what is reasonable? You tell me!!
Getting services is always nice and easy. Paying back is a bitch!
