Ancestral Force Series - 6: Who chooses the Spouse?

23 March 2023

Houston, USA

This is a sequel to Ancestral Force Series-5: Karmic Exchange between families during marriage

The database of Ancestral force writings can be found here: Ancestral Force Series Database

Who chooses the Spouse/ Partner:

The laity generally thinks in the following direction:

Does the individual choose their Spouse/ Partner?
Do the relatives or parents choose?
Or the personal preference or standards of beauty, or wealth lets one choose their spouse or partner?

All the above are based on the concept of free will or extension of free will. None of the free will stuff in any decision-making is true, especially in choosing spouses and partners. The mind lets the core-self (Atma) believe that it is making the decision but with a little bit more care in observing deeply, one can quickly come to a state where the core-self (atma) is compelled to make that decision based on several pressing from all sides.

Common Factors in consideration behind choosing the spouse/ partner (using so-called Freewill):

Even without psychic perception, if one could dig deeper into why one chooses their spouse? One can easily come down to several first-layer hidden factors as listed below:

Cultural conditioning
1. Same language, caste
2. beauty standards or attraction as per each culture/ society to which one is exposed to (this can be strong or moderate depending on the individual, men worry a lot about this factor)
Economic & status power
1. Some society considers any Govt. job as higher compared to jobs even in foreign lands (vice-versa is true)
2. No. of cars or houses or fame recognized as per his society's yardstick
Desires energies
1. Desire to have a companion for individual's pursuits in the name of mutual interests like food habits (Vegan, Vetgeterains), movie buff, etc
2. Desire to travel, power, wealth, etc;
3. Once the desire energies are partially or fully satisfy or satisfy, the need for that particular partner goes down amiably or with resentment if it is not fulfilled. Either way the strong desire for companionship eventually withers down and the couple starts to find another anchor point to run the show.

One does not need psychic vision to come to the above factors behind choosing the spouse with a little bit of intellectual digging, one can outline these factors.

And now let's dig even deeper into the more astral and subtle hidden factors beyond laity's intellect, this will need mystic or psychic perception.

Hidden Astral Factors behind choosing the spouse (Seen using mystic vision):

Karmic History (Samsara)
1. Past action and relationship history in the circle of rebirths
2. Every unfinished relationship energy from several past births latches on to the subtle body of the individual and enforces one to complete the loop, but laity out of sheer ignorance of past life karma thinks he or she is selecting the spouse out of the free will listed above.
3. In my case: One life mother became this life spouse and another life spouse became this life mother. This relationship energy is active and karma set us up again in a different setting.
Ancestral Force and their collateral desire force
1. The preset direction in which the ancestor's desired force starts traveling cannot be changed and stalled by any limited entity.
2. The number of ancestors traveling behind such a desired force can be around more than 100, the sheer momentum cannot be overturned by any single entity until one is empowered by Deity for some mission.
3. Many times the ancestors are divided on the approach to the same desire, which could create confusion and complexities in choosing the spouse.
  1. Eg: All ancestors mostly desire wealth or power goals to come in a better position to keep exploiting the material nature, they don't account for the Law of changing karma which states simply what goes up should come down and they whimsically try to keep going up until shot down by nature.
  2. Some ancestors want to take the route of education and climb up the corporate ladder to get to a power
  3. Some ancestors want to take the route of marrying wealthy families to enforce a stronger alliance of power and wealth
  4. Some ancestors want to take a route of moving to foreign wealthy nations from third world countries for better conditions to reach power and wealth.
  5. Some ancestors just want a body and don't care how they come and by whom they come; they suddenly force us to marry a simple person, that's because of this cabal.
  6. In the end, hardly I have seen any ancestor who is non-harassing with desires. That's the setup of nature, whole blame can't be put on ancestors.
4. By the way, all ancestors in common have a habit and desire to come thru a physically attractive male or female body and hover over them. These desire forces can also confuse and overpower the individual with other desire forces.
  1. A group of deceased ancestors hover around the physically attractive beings and jump into a girl or boy's body and force them to flirt and desire them to complete the relationship to come thru them. This is common too and this nagging will be there for the rest of one's life. All this will force one to think about who owns the body and start preparing for higher worlds for less harassment.
Deity's and Guru's blessing
1. Eg: The family guardian deity blesses the appropriate spouse to solve the complex equation of karmic entanglements and the immediate ancestor's desire to resolve the tension to resolve the conflict to some extent.
2. Guardian deities can remove the obstacles both external and internal to the psyche to drive toward marriage in a lightning speed.
3. Guardian family deities can easily frustrate the efforts of finding a suitable spouse by throwing more obstacles If they are unhappy for reasons as stated below:
  1. Not acknowledging them or paying due respects
  2. Working against wishes of the laid down path (roughly like dharma)
  3. Working against the wishes of ancestors
  4. Creating tension astrally by not giving body to ancestors.
4. Every human being has some guardian deities or lower deities responsible for his clan and family. Hinduism, and Buddhism has this culture to a good extent, even Christian families have supernatural agents responsible for the clan and deities will act if one misbehaves even in Christian families, but one seldom acknowledges them.
  - I spoke to my old friend recently who belongs to Swami Narayan Sect, he is 38 years old and married for 6-7 years and still had no child, I encouraged him to have kids to give bodies to his ancestors and reduce the tension for his family guardian deities. His response was startling at first but that's how even I was initially and that's how the world is going towards, a mix of globalization and strong Advaitic influence.
  - My friend told, "Yeah, we don't have to worship these lower deities like Brahma, Shiva, Durga and even more lower deities, at the end we will go to the abode of Swami Narayan as promised by our Sampradaya heads since we follow the rituals and the prayers given to us sincerely". His family guardian deities are Maha Kali and another female sister deity of Durga. I can get an idea of what tension must be going at the deity level.
  - Swami Narayan is a Pramatama and diving being, there is no doubt about it but the austerities undertaken to reach the Abode of Swami Narayan by their followers are interesting because it contains no yoga but Swami Narayan himself in his childhood at the age of 11 (called Nikanth Varni) took sanyas and was a master yogi and perfected Patanjali Yoga in 9 months and did mindblowing austerities in Himalayas that no possible human can even touch the hieghts.
  - The concept of rebirth is almost destroyed or buried deep in that sect to the point that he can't even think of the rebirth concept now when I try to convince him of ancestral duties.
  - My friend lives in London now, he is a kind soul, a sincere and devout intellectual person who has no evil or ulterior motives nor grand ambitions, a simple person in heart and dealings, and did sincere social service in India sacrificing some of his early careers for less pay. We met 10 years ago at a research university in India and published papers together, and if that person has this level of spiritual difficulty, one can gauge how the remaining lot could be. He was receptive to the idea but his attachment to the sect is preventing him from acting on the friendly advice.

These complex equations of astral factors are the basis for one's selection of a spouse.

Current life partner (Pa) = Past life Karmic Relationships (Ka_Relationship) ∩ Ancestral Desire force (An_desire) ∩ Deity's Blessing (Deity_blessing)

Pa = Ka_Relationship ∩ An_desire ∩ Deity_blessing

Concluding Remarks:

I wrote this article as I keep hearing the following statements again and again:

Out of frustration, one keeps yelling

Why did I choose you? Why did I marry you?
Why didn't you tell me all these conditions before marriage? You tricked me into marriage
You hid these things to forcefully marry me or to trap me.
I thought I will happy after marriage and all my expectations and desires are shattered
I can't even have my favorite food or go to my favorite spots because of you!
Ultimately, I am just going to spend the rest of my life only for my child and you got to hell!
Sometimes, I don't give a hoot to anyone and all goes to hell! I will go on my way!

I heard this in my life, in my parent's life, and almost between every couple.

The premise here is the laity couple strongly thinks they chose each other out of free will which is the root cause of all these statements and problems and deluded miseries.

If the couple understands and integrates this in day-to-day life that they were just stooges all the time of many hidden causal energies (desires, past life karma) and more powerful astral forces (ancestors), one would silently accept the reality and fulfill the relationship by giving bodies to ancestors and raising them without many qualms and silently escape this relationship contract with minimal emotional damage and stress understanding that this is a shared enterprise with very limited and shared rights with all visible and non-visible stakeholders.

One can integrate this concept in life by either direct psychic prescription thru yogic methods or from someone on whom one has spiritual confidence or a combination of both. I initially took this information from Madhva with partial confidence and the remaining confidence came from my direct psychic perception thru my yogic austerities and his grace.

Also, the guardian deity's acknowledgment is necessary to understand why some of them are frustrated in the pursuit of getting married. I was frustrated and humbled by deity until I succumbed to her and paid due respects and she granted the blessing for marriage, if not I would still be roaming like a dog.

Previous posts on my family guardian deity's help can be found here:

Different Topic: Some pictures of Swami Narayan (Nilkanth Yogi)

Some images of the great teen yogi Nilkant Yogi and a Paramatama category who was later known as Swami Narayan. His influence can be felt all over his sampradaya. One can read his austerities to know what class of yogi he is, unbelievable! He was a Bala-sannyasa (took renunciation during childhood). Mastered Patanjali Yoga in 9 months.

His followers in the sampradaya don't do yoga. They have a tough time integrating and applying the rebirth concept in day-to-day life, they have other modes of worship like chants and other spiritual guidelines (yama, niyamas). There are exceptions to my observations and there are some elevated souls in that sampradaya, there is no doubt about it.

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